Essay: Noisy Restaurant Necessitates Bobblehead Doll Responses

The trigger for today's essay was a little thing, but it followed a big thing so it became meaningful. Included in the paperwork for a new endodontist I was referred to recently was the low key question of the type of music I'd like to hear while under their care. I checked off "the 60's" and forgot about it. As I snugged into the orthodontist's chair, however, "Surfin USA" followed by other Beach Boys’ hits played gently in the background and made me smile and relax. In contrast, a couple days later, my wife and I joined dear friends for dinner at the trendy, relatively new restaurant, Callie, in the East Village of downtown San Diego. We had arrived shortly after 5 p.m. on a weekday evening, which was good because conversations were still possible. But by the time our dinner selections were being made, the animated and elevated voices of hundreds of guests and their parties made it impossible to hear--much less understand--one another. Indeed,

Being considerate of others: Is it more difficult during a pandemic?

"Please do not put trash into the planters" were the signs staring at me at Sunday brunch last weekend. The outdoor dining area was ringed with attractive planters, several with the same message.Today's story raises the question: why would anyone even need to be asked not to trash an attractive planter in a restaurant? It's a sad commentary on society. We all know the answer, of course, which is that not everyone is considerate of others or of the environment. It might be the person who leaves their dog's poop for others to scoop. Alternately, it might be the restaurant server who sleeps late, or simply doesn't show up at all, is hung over, or arrives at work breathing COVID on his or her colleagues. These behaviors all impose unfair burdens on other workers, hurt team performance and customer satisfaction, and damage restaurant rankings--a trifecta of thoughtless negative consequences. Environmental protection laws, masking requirements and recycling camp

Part 2: Readers' Response to Essay: "Coping with Disappointments: Is Taking Them for Granted a Healthy Response?"

Part 2: Readers' Responses to Essay: "Coping with Disappointments: Is Taking them for Granted a Healthy Response?" Inbox Mark Riedy Thu, Jan 13, 7:07 AM (1 day ago) Responses to the essay on handling disappointments were plentiful and insightful, as illustrated in Part 1 of this two-part series. In this essay I will provide the full responses of four individuals, ending on an upbeat note. With thanks again to those of you sharing your thoughts with me, it's my pleasure in turn to convey the insights and experiences of four friends. 1. This friend responds faithfully to almost every essay I write, and articulates an unabashedly liberal/progressive point of view on a wide variety of topics--consistently well-reasoned and presented-- typically from a socio-economic-ethical perspective rather than a political one. What follows includes material from two of her responses. "What strikes me most in what you wrote is what is considered “regular” life in this day

Part 1--Readers respond to "Coping with Disappointments: Is Taking Them for Granted a Healthy Response?"

From: Mark Riedy Date: Sun, Jan 9, 2022 at 7:00 PM Subject: Essay: Part 1--Readers respond to "Coping with Disappointments: Is Taking Them for Granted a Healthy Response?" Dear Friends and Family, One of the genuine pleasures I derive from writing these essays is that many of you, a varying group from topic to topic, take time to offer your comments on my musings. I learn a lot from your experience and insights. I enjoy taking your words and using them to create new essays like this one, in which I can share your feedback with everyone on the distribution list. Without fail, your comments add depth and richness to the messages contained in my original essays and thereby enrich all of our lives. Collectively, we are neighbors helping neighbors. From your comments it became clear I had only scratched the surface of the issue of how individuals cope with disappointment. A quick refresher is that our two grandsons, ages 16 and 19, traveling with us on a cruise to Mexico


Dear Friends and Family: It is easy to think about what to do with the good things in our lives, those we may have been taking for granted. See my November 29, 2021 essay, "Never Take for Granted a Good Night's Sleep". Identify, embrace and appreciate them. But what about the bad/sad things, and the disappointments and frustrations we may also be taking for granted? What do we do with or about them? These are not simple questions. They arise from an observation, which I consider quite profound, made recently by our 19-year old grandson: "In this era of COVID I have gotten used to being disappointed." Let me put his insight into context before asking for comments from family and friends. Recently, my wife and I were thrilled to be able to corral/entice/bribe/host our two teen-aged grandsons (16 and 19 years old) to join us on a week-long cruise of the Mexican Riviera. As they checked out the list of excursions in Mazatlan and Puerto Vallarta, they picked the

Suggesting readers consider sending me their email addresses rather than going through this blog

It has come to my attention that those individuals who have my blog postings automatically sent to their email addresses may end up with one continuous paragraph, mind-bogglingly long and off-putting. I believe, if you read it here on the blog, it may appear with paragraphs as I intended. If you prefer to have the essays more readable, with paragraphs as appropriate, please consider sending me your email address with a brief request to be added to my distribution list. The ONLY thing I post here are my essays. I first email them to a list of just over 450 individuals, and those arrive with proper indentation. The only use I make of the distribution list is to email out these essays. Also, it has come to my attention that when I sent my last email, two individuals (whom I verified had not blocked my emails themselves) did not receive copies of my email. I received an error message that they had rejected them. I know that there have been some upgrades made recently by Apple (or mayb

First of Two Sets of Responses to Essay "One for the Textbooks (of the Future)"

RESPONSES TO “ONE FOR THE TEXTBOOKS (OF THE FUTURE)” Thanks to all of you who responded to my essay so quickly and thoughtfully, at times also emotionally. I applaud you for sharing your thoughts with me and the larger group of readers! Before I begin quoting (anonymously) several of the responses, I wanted to refer to an industry newsletter forwarded to me by a friend. In it the author addresses what he considers to be an overvalued stock market. I wanted to share with you the phraseology of his conclusion because I thought it was excellent, not only for his narrower opinion of the future course of stock prices and stock indices, but also for today’s economic and financial prospects more broadly. In brief, he admitted to not knowing how the level of stock prices and indices will finally resolve themselves. However, he was confident it would not end happily. In this “Readers’ Responses” essay I have tried my best to exclude any material I considered political in nature. Part of me